Tired of living your life for other people? Do you find yourself exhausted by all the commitments you’ve made to others?
If you answered yes, it’s time to set some boundaries and reclaim your precious power, time, energy, and mental well-being.
Having healthy boundaries is a crucial component of self-care. Without them, we can quickly lose ourselves in work, relationships, familial obligations, or service to others. Knowing how to set boundaries is one of the essential skills for a fulfilling and happy life. Sadly though this is something that we were not taught at school. People with healthy boundaries tend to have lower levels of stress and higher self-esteem compared to those who do not prioritise setting boundaries. BOUNDARIES FREE YOU TO LIVE LIFE ON YOUR TERMS. Grab a cosy hot drink, your notebook and a pen to help you create your own bespoke boundaries with the 4 steps below.
1. Ask yourself what you would like to reclaim
The prospect of setting boundaries can feel overwhelming, so having some quiet time to contemplate can help you gain clarity over areas in your life where you are losing energy. Maybe it’s an imbalance of power with your coworkers, friends or your partner. Make a list of what comes up for you when you ask yourself: What do I want to reclaim?
2. Describe how life will be when there is a power balance
Write down your hopes for what life would feel and be like when you have relationships with people who respect your boundaries and treat you fairly. Relationships that fulfil you, what would that look like for you?
3. Communicate your boundaries with love
This talk doesn’t have to be heated, far from it! You can ask the person you are speaking to for the space to share what is important to you. One of the biggest mistakes people make is setting boundaries in their minds and not openly sharing their thoughts aloud.
4. Uphold your boundaries Letting boundaries slide can lead to confusion.
Encourage new expectations and demands among those around you.
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Let me know how you get on!