By Psychologist Mamta Saha
Dear Readers, our communications can enhance the quality of our relationships in life. We know that having effective communication skills is fundamental in having a successful life. We as humans love connecting with other people because it makes us happy and good communication is the key when we want our social interactions to be a positive and happy ones. To achieve this, it is vital that we know how to have healthy communications.
Healthy Communication equals Healthy Relationships
Knowing how to communicate with your friends or family in a clear, honest, and mindful way is a tool you can use to help you better connect and convey your feelings which can improve your connection to them. Well, what can we do to try and have healthy communication with our loved ones? Let me help you with a few easy steps you can start using to have effective and healthy communication.
Nothing is impossible
Let’s start with the most important one. Being able to listen actively to our partner or friend. I believe that active listening is so much more than just not talking, but also trying to understand the emotions the speaker is trying to convey. It is an art that requires a genuine interest in the other person, a curiosity rather than an anticipative mind. You will be surprised at how much you will be able to learn about the other person. Another one of my personal favourites is, keeping our emotions in check. How many times have you felt stressed during a disagreement with your spouse, kids, boss, friends, or coworkers and then said or done something you later regretted?
Everybody has a need to feel: seen, heard and recognised
An effective way to tackle this is to take a step back and pause to collect our thoughts, of course, it is easier said than done. Take a moment to calm down before deciding to continue a conversation or reschedule it. By giving yourself time to think, you will be able to identify your feelings and the real reason for the statement you are going to make. One last bit of advice: Give up the need to be right. A conversation with your partner is not a battle that you have to win. You don’t have anything to prove. That often leads to losing the goal of the conversation. You know that working things out between you can be a messy process, and you expect to have reactions.
WAIT: Why Am I Talking?
Like painting or singing, communication in relationships is a skill that requires practice. If you would like to improve communication in your relationships, you have to make conscious efforts and take steps that might make you step out of your comfort zone or nothing will change.
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