This week’s blog focuses on how you respect yourself, ensuring you are not taken advantage of and feeling respected and positive about yourself after every interaction. Think spa London believes this is an essential part of self confidence.
The first thing you need to feel is complete in yourself. Know your strengths and weakness and be sure about who you are. Be mindful that everyone has faults; no one is prefect that is a fact. No one should ever make you feel as though you are not enough. Remember if they do, it is them that is incomplete not you. Regardless of who is in your life you need to feel independent, hold your own and be your best friend. This attitude will ensure you are detached and objective. It doesn’t mean you are cold. It just means you are able to take care of number one so you can be strong in life and face all people and situations with confidence.
Never volunteer negative information about yourself. When you feel close to people it is easy to open up and start sharing your insecurities and faults. Do not do this. What this magnifies is your vulnerability, once this is discovered it doesn’t take long to disrespect. Repeat this mantra when feelings of self doubt enter your mind: I am relaxed, secure and happy regardless of who is around. The more you repeat this the more you will feel it. If you choose to reveal all faults be prepared to have them potentially misunderstood, questioned and talked about.
If you are being ignored or taken advantage of do not continue trying hard to impress. Simply stop giving your good energy. If you carry on trying you show that you accept being treated badly and that other people can get away with stinky behaviour, this is not okay. If you get too emotional and start sharing your feelings this may not be appreciated and again highlights your weakness. Save yourself the headache. Hit fifth gear and find the nearest exit. When interacting with others the ideal is feeling energised not deflated. If you are not given the respect you deserve to continue trying is wasting your energy and eroding your self worth. Ultimately you become responsible for disrespecting yourself and deteriorate any chance respect in the relationship.
Never be around individuals that have shown you they can be hurtful. If you see this streak, remain detached and do not get too close. This individual is clearly insecure and malicious. If they are proud enough to share this trait openly they will have no hesitation in turning against you. Live by your values and stay away from these sorts of people for they cannot be trusted. If you see politics at hand remind yourself that power is the control you have over yourself.
Good Luck.