Let’s get out of our comfort zone
By Psychologist Mamta Saha
As a Psychologist, I often find myself subconsciously observing the world around me and making sense of it from an objective lens. That said, I am who I am and of course, if I am not in a professional context, I cannot help but apply my psychological filters, views, and values to make sense of what I see.
Social media has been around now for over 15 years and through my work and research, I can see clearly that it is changing people. From choosing where to dine and what to wear, who to spend time with, and who not to spend time with. We live in a world is that becoming focused on that one perfect photo, the perfected dance routine, and of course a witty statement with a pretty backdrop on a post.
Recently I had been reflecting a lot on what all of this means to me and I was inspired to write a poem which I am sharing with you below. Yes, this is far from my typical column however for all of you that regularly read my words, you would know that I am anything beyond the surface level and I think that is why my words resonate with you as they do! I hope my poem does as well. I am coming out of my comfort zone to share it with you, and I truly hope it touches your heart and stimulates your mind.
Today’s world with yesterday’s Heart
I am not wowed by the number of followers you have
I am keen to know how you are healing your heart
I am not impressed by your collection of the material
I am touched by your willingness to serve those who have nothing to give you in return
I am not drawn in by your pretty pictures on social media
I wonder instead how often you lean into your wounds and speak of your pain
Your jazzy conversations do not sway me
But your ability to see others deep beyond their make-up blows me away
I am not inspired by how you ghosted old friends
I am touched by how, despite the discomfort you stayed and worked it through
I am not impressed by your shallow circles
I long to hear about how you authentically connect just by being yourself.
I am not interested in your BFF’s I wonder do you thirst for vulnerable, courageous conversations where you feel free to be your true self without judgement?
Your hollow, quick witted reactions put nothing on a compassionate, empathetic response at times when you have nothing left to give.
I am not moved by your ability to fill the space with noise
I want to feel the generosity and time you take to hold space for someone who needs to feel heard
My head is not turned by your perfect tik Tok dance routines
I crave to know if you dance like no one’s watching when the music of life touches your soul
I choose to see you beyond these layers of societal norms and expectations. What about you?
I’d love to know your thoughts on my words, email me at: mamta@mamtasaha.com and if you want more, watch my TED talk: Invisible No More and take a listen to the podcast: Saha Mindset on Spotify. Ah and don’t forget your free ebook on: www.mamtasaha.com. Till next time x